we accept the love we think we deserve.
no more, no less, it is what is.
decide what you deserve. then you will understand why you get what you get, and if it’s not acceptable, you will know the way to get what is acceptable.
often, you just have to ask yourself the right questions and be prepared for honest answers. some people won’t accept unconditional love from someone who wants to give it to them because deep down, they don’t feel they deserve it, or for whatever reason, their own love and feelings for themselves is conditional. in this way, they will only accept what they feel they deserve, rejecting anything that is more or better. some people will leave situations even if they desire it and want it to work because at the end of the day, they truly feel they deserve better, something more unadulterated than their partner is willing or able to give.
no matter what, there’s no judgment to it, just a simple observation of what is. if we accept the love we think we deserve, by examining the love we want or that is in our lives, we are able to see exactly what it is we think we deserve and thus, how we really feel about ourselves and if that, in and of itself, is acceptable and what we really want.
we all get the lives we want whether consciously or unconsciously. i feel that most people have a better chance of being content with what they have if they go about making these choices consciously, and making conscious what goes on unconsciously. truth should never be feared. most of the times when people fear truth, they are only fearing their ability to face and accept truth.