Men never think about the situation. How their need for control is sometimes how they lose control. Baiting a woman with something she wants to get her to approach. And as soon as she agrees and takes it, if she’s self-aware, the man suddenly realizes–this is the only control he’s got with her. There is a man who will just deal with it, try to bridge a trust. The other man freaks out. He thinks he’d better control what little he has control over, and he more or less upsets the boat. He tries to put the thing she wants on his terms. He almost uses it like a dog treat. But the day he withholds what she wants in an outright coup to make her obey, he realizes very quickly, this ain’t no game. This thing is bigger than you, and now it’s pissed.