Advice to my cousin:
A lot of times men will want to see what your limits are of what you’ll put up with from them. They won’t necessarily test in big ways, like cheating, or talking about this really great blowjob he once got from his ex. If you’re like me, this is the guy I make cry before I give him the boot. But they’ll push just to see how much room they have on the tether, how much control they have over you and the situation. A lot of it, if it’s reasonable, is normal. It’s a male need to know their territory. But it needs to be reasonable. He should know what he has to lose. If he doesn’t, he’s not smart and by evolution, he’s not a suitable partner. 2nd, you determine “too far.” You can put up with normal boundary testing, but a challenge to your boundaries of self-respect is different. Sometimes a guy looks at me wrong or looks at my breasts wrong and I’m gone. There’s enough men in this world that you don’t have to put up with childish idiocy. End of the day, you’ll have him only as long as you want him, and do you want a guy who pushes you too far just because he can? If you’re willing to give him a chance, let him go as far as he dares to go. Don’t hold back how you feel when he’s trying to test for “too far” and coming damn close. These are his warnings. But if they go too far and fall off the side of the earth, cut em loose. Wouldn’t you rather have a guy who is more interested in you, than in what he can get away with you?