Julia, the right guy will make himself known. He will actively make plans with you and take steps to realize those plans. He will want to take care of you and put you first because he is a man and you are his woman. When things are good he will be next to you sharing those times and when things are not good, he will be fighting those circumstances (not you) to make them right. When you are sad or mad, he will immediately show he cares and actively try to resolve things because he will be protective of both you and the sacred bond between you and will see this as an opportunity to bring you closer. When he is sad or mad, he will tell you because he will want it fixed and he wants to give you the chance. You should never have to fight to get your feelings heard or understood. You should never have to fight to get a man to love you, take care of you or be there for you. You should never have to justify your feelings in order to get him to take them seriously. He will, because he is serious about you.
Julia, THIS is your man.